How the LGBTQ Movement is Helping the Growth & Evolution of the Human Species & Our Eternal Souls—A Spiritual Perspective (Part 2)
Brainwashing Used by Organized Religion to the Detriment of Humanity
Now, please hear me and hear me well when I say that this is not meant to offend anyone or "convince" anyone of anything; rather, this is my perception of a human-designed and therefore flawed system that is no longer functioning for the benefit of humanity as a whole; rather, it is a system that is exclusionary, controlling, and conditional, all things that Source is not.
Source—God, Allah, Yahweh, or whatever other label you would like to call this energetic force behind everything in existence—is supposed to be unconditional, pure love and light. So, right from the outset, we have a conflict: organized religion wants you to follow specific conditions in order to "earn" the unconditional love you already receive in every moment and for all eternity that you're just not tapped into or connected to within you, which is why you feel miserable so often and it feels like God abandons you when you need Him most. Unconditional love doesn't have to be earned. It just is.
It's because this system of organized religion has one very important thing wrong: it teaches us that God is outside of us rather than within us. It teaches us that God is angry, vengeful, and controlling, which makes us fear Him, and He would much rather we love Him. It teaches us to focus on something outside of ourselves to make our decisions for us so that we don't have to take responsibility for our own lives. Using God, people can justify just about anything. As a matter of fact, history reveals that religion has been used to justify genocide, and harming anyone through any of these tactics is not love, and therefore does not align with Source energy and does not represent God.
Love and fear cannot exist within the same being or entity simultaneously, so someone cannot be loving while utilizing forceful or dictatorial methods to control someone else. If someone is treating you in a way that seems controlling or tweaks you in a weird way that makes you kind of say, "Ookaaayyy...???" and leaves you confused about the relationship, then there's a good chance that this person is still stuck in the fear state of consciousness and doesn't realize what they're doing.
The most alarming aspect of this to me is FOG. FOG stands for Fear, Obligation, and Guilt. This is the same emotional manipulation tactic used by covert and overt narcissists to keep their victims in line and following the status quo, not asking questions. This is also the same manipulative tactic used by cult leaders and interrogators at POW camps.
FEAR: In my experience, threats of going to hell or of God striking you down were very prominent. So if we do anything wrong ever, we are told we have to face an eternal consequence of pain and suffering. Well, from my vantage point, I see a lot of pain and suffering here on earth already, so maybe we are already in hell and now it's time to work our way out of it by raising our energetic frequencies. Maybe hell is just a different label for another dimension of consciousness. Have you noticed how great we humans are at making ourselves and each other miserable? Coupled with the law of attraction, it makes perfect sense that subjecting yourself to this type of fear conditioning would create more misery than it alleviates.
OBLIGATION: Jesus suffered and died on the cross for your sins, so you'd better spend the rest of eternity making up for that and paying him back. Right? God created you, and you betrayed his trust by eating of the fruit in the garden, so you're going to spend the rest of eternity making up for it because that's what religion says. Again, that sounds pretty conditional to me. I don't believe that is a divine attitude at all, so I will choose to believe that Source is unconditional, and all of this conditional bullshit either originates from humans or from dark entities trying to enslave humanity. Just like you don't "owe" your parents anything for raising you, we don't "owe" Source anything because we are pieces of Source. If anything, we each owe ourselves the unconditional love that is readily and abundantly available to us from within and allows us to feel our connection to Source.
GUILT: "Now, let's place guilt into our hearts for our sins." A priest said this during his homily one Sunday when I was about 16, and that was the moment I lost my desire to participate in organized religion. If I'm a decent human being, I will already feel an appropriate amount of guilt after doing something that ignites a guilt feeling. If I beat myself up over it excessively and prolong this guilt, it creates an energetic burden on my soul that is extremely difficult to shake. This can lead to soul fragmentation—a process by which we are unable to feel complete or whole as we are due to a "splintering" of our energetic core—a very common consequence of spiritual abuse, which organized religions and their followers tend to commit inadvertently, without being aware of it happening, just by following the rules of the broken religious system without consciously and critically considering what is really happening.
There are many commonalities between what I experienced and what people experience in a cult environment, so I'd like to go over some of the six aspects of a cult that have parallels within this particular religion according to my experience and perception.
Control of the environment: place of worship (the origin of the word "cult" means "worship"), overall mood/vibe, dress code, silence, somberness, etc. These are some aspects of environmental control.
A system of rewards and punishments: If you go to confession and do penance for your sins, you may keep receiving the Eucharist/Body of Christ. If you're bad, you go to hell. Or we may make an example out of you to keep the rest of the “flock” in line.
Creating a sense of powerlessness, fear, and dependency: the deity has all the power; you are merely a servant, and beware the wrath of God. He is a vengeful God, according to some scriptures, so you'd better watch out. Not only does this create a sense that we are unable to take control of our own lives (because fear of making a mistake can be paralyzing, and this is the eternal soul we're talking about, making this fear very real and very frightening to mere humans), but it also creates a sense that we have no say in what happens to us in our lives because we're waiting on God to make things happen. I don't care what anybody tells you, this is not a healthy way to exist as a human! Again, the problem is that God is said to be outside of us, not a part of us within.
Reforming the follower’s behaviour and attitudes: dictating what to wear, how to speak, what to do, what not to do, whom to associate with, and whom to ostracize and exclude or use as a scapegoat or "example" to keep everyone else in line. None of this is loving. All of it is controlling and fearful.
All within a closed system of logic: their truth is the only truth, period, and everyone else is going to hell because they are wrong. Many decide to go on mission trips and "witness" to other people, and sometimes this is done in a much more loving way than other times.
Because of the fear and control tactics many organizations and systems incorporate in today's world, this is all considered very "normal" and those of us who are waking up already tend to be highly sensitive, intuitive, empathic, and at least somewhat connected to Source from within. Once you have connected with Source by going within, you feel your truth rather than adopting someone else's, and this is where you can start stepping into your own power and taking full responsibility for yourself and your spirit, which includes taking responsibility for every life you've ever lived and anything that may have happened within those lives.
The final topic I want to cover in this section is sex-shaming because that ties this whole article back to the LGBTQ movement. Organized religions are excellent at doing this, and this shame-shedding (alarmingly, this is also a trait of people on the NPD spectrum) is conditioned into the organization's members, who then condition it into their children via the same fear and control tactics, because they come to believe that this is the best way to show love because the example of this is the Bible, the church, and God. Although it isn't the best way to show love, the physical world and all of the constructs we have created as human beings convinces many of us that unconditional love isn't real, doesn't exist, and that life is supposed to be a struggle and an emotional roller coaster. Of course it is, when you are following the example of a deity who comes across as controlling and vengeful rather than loving! If HE doesn’t want US to be vengeful (10 Commandments) then why is HE being such a hypocrite about it? ;) Just a thought.
Sex was by far the most taboo topic in my household growing up, and I essentially ended up having to go and find out what I wanted to know on my own because the only "talk" I ever got was, "Sex is bad, don't do it." Same with anything else that was uncomfortable; they chose not to sit down and have calm and educated conversations with me or offer me information and knowledge that would educate me. Rather, they told me what to do and what not to do, and then shamed me for wanting the experience, shamed me for the way I dressed (I was considered "goth" in high school but always dressed pretty conservatively regardless because I was self-conscious about my weight), shamed me for my friendships and relationships after the slightest indication that my friends or boyfriends weren't up to their impossible standards of perfection. They also shamed me for wanting a social life and needing affection, oftentimes telling me (or each other), "She's like a bitch in heat." Sex-shaming. Of course I also was shamed for needing emotional support, but that's going full circle back to how so many HSPs or empaths have been raised.
Meanwhile, all I wanted was to feel loved, accepted, and understood... especially by my family. I silently endured emotional and spiritual abuse throughout my life until recently due to the emotional stuntedness of the family I was born into. This doesn't make them "bad" people; it simply means that they are still asleep, still trapped in the physical experience as if it's the only one in existence (despite claiming to believe in a soul and an afterlife), and still unaware and unconscious of the ripple effect they are sending out into the universe with each toxic action or word. Because of the sheer accumulation of dark or negative emotional energies, it causes a great deal of inner turmoil when one is confronted with the idea of taking responsibility for the things one has said or done to hurt another. And yes, taking inner responsibility can be painful and even shocking, especially to the ego, which shrinks a little bit every time you swallow your pride and do the right thing no matter how challenging.
Unfortunately, you cannot expect unconscious or unawakened people to take this level of responsibility, which is NOT anchored in the physical, by the way. I'm not referring to being responsible for your own basic needs and shelter; I'm referring to taking responsibility for everything beneath the surface, beginning with emotions and how your behavior may affect others because we are all connected.
Those who still deny, shift blame, and shrink away from taking this level of responsibility are not your responsibility or anything you need to be concerned with, though. You cannot expect, force, or coerce someone outside of yourself to take responsibility for their own actions, words, or other unforeseen consequences of underlying energetic or emotional activity that they don't understand from their level of consciousness. For your own sanity, if you're in a situation like this, I highly recommend getting to a point where you simply do not care what other people think of you, say about you, etc., especially those who are toxic to you but claim to care about you. Toxicity and abuse happen in cycles, so of course they will then become nice and sweet and apologetic, only to turn on you again after an amount of time or when you do something they don't agree with or that might make them "look bad" or threaten their authority or sense of being infallible. Remember that abuse is abuse, period. One person making another suffer (ages and relationships don't matter; one human to another, period) on any level, especially intentionally, is abusive.
I remember feeling very confused about why emotions felt so big but weren't allowed to be spoken about and extremely discouraged from even being felt. Why wasn't I supposed to feel things? You can imagine how counter-intuitive and oppressive this would feel to an innocent child. Needless to say, I am definitely not in the minority with this experience, and have remained steadfast in my conviction that my children's feelings matter and I will help guide them through whatever they are going through while also allowing them to be 100% themselves... and explore their options so that they can make an informed decision about who they are and who they want to be in their physical experience. I accept my children for who they are already, and whoever they will grow into as they journey through this life and make new discoveries about themselves.
I do not hold any resentment toward my children like many parents do (especially those on the NPD spectrum or with another psychological or personality disorder), although I have found some traces of it buried way back in the darkest corners of my soul. From the beginning of my first pregnancy, though, I made the conscious decision to continue following my passion in life whether I had children or not. I knew that if I gave up on my own work and inspiration, I would end up growing resentful toward my children, and this is not good because it plays out in unconscious and subconscious ways and manifests in ill treatment toward your children, often in the forms of emotional abuse, manipulation tactics, control, force, neglect, or even sexual and physical abuse. And whether you realize it fully or not, abuse is hiding right under our noses every single day; when a parent tells their child, "You should be ashamed of yourself!" or, "I know you better than you know yourself," or, "I know what's best for you," this creates a feeling of instability within that child and encourages a development of poor self-esteem, a lack of self-love, and zero trust in their own judgment or ability to make decisions.
"You should be ashamed of yourself," is the main vibe of this particular organized religion, especially when it comes to sex. How dare you have a desire for something so natural, beautiful, expressive, and sacred! Shame on you! I say fuck that. This does not establish a healthy sense of sexuality, and worse, it distorts our idea of what healthy boundaries look like. It creates an inability to say no when someone is being further abused or coerced into sexual activities they may not actually want to participate in because they're so used to someone outside of them dictating every decision they should make... as well as doling out consequences that have zero relevance in the "real world," so to speak, or to what you actually did "wrong." It also creates a sense of shame just for being human and having human desires, which translates into a constant feeling of having a "guilty conscience," which is then used to further manipulate and control you via your emotions because then you get into trouble for things you didn't even do just by looking guilty.
These controlling, fear-based tactics are not limited to organized religion, either, by any means. These tactics are also employed in corporations and other businesses, families, classrooms, and other social groups. The layers of this type of fear-based existence permeate everything, which is why it is up to those of us who are seeing this now to help shed light onto these tough but important issues and bring a new perspective to the forefront, one that is more open and less fearful, loving and not controlling.
Now, I'm not writing about organized religion to claim that they are a cult, period; I think we can all agree that life isn't as black and white as that. However, I can tell you from my experiences that I constantly and consistently felt judged, shamed just for feeling things or asking questions, guilt-tripped for disagreeing with anything, and essentially energetically and emotionally beaten into submission. This has caused a great deal of suffering and issues for me due to the brainwashing and conditioning, all of which I am currently in the process of working through and releasing for my own sake. Writing these types of articles helps me with this, and I hope that my experience is able to also help you in the process. And, even though the problems were created from an external source to begin with, they must be healed from within. The person who hurt you may never admit it or even be brought to any kind of justice, which isn't an excuse for the behavior, but it does mean that you cannot expect a thing from them and will heal much more quickly if you focus on healing from within and do not depend on them for your progress because this keeps your power in their hands.
Now, if I was treated this way for whatever reason (which has nothing to do with me or anything about me, but everything to do with the closed-mindedness and judgment of other people), I can only imagine the suffering and turmoil someone who identifies as LGBTQ may have to endure just to be who they are and feel accepted as such.
Well, I'm here to let you know that all of that fear, control, guilt, and other manipulations and coercive tactics are not loving, and you deserve unconditional love just like the rest of us do. We are humans; being human comes with gathering experiences and learning from them. When we discover something about ourselves that we may not have known before and we want to explore further or embrace that aspect of ourselves, there is nothing more damaging than people who claim to care about you turning away from you because you are choosing a different path than they would choose for you.
The only people who will ever have an issue with you being yourself are those who wish to control you, and again, control is based in fear, and fear and love cannot exist simultaneously within the same being. This is the dimension of consciousness we each must choose for ourselves. As far as I can tell, one human being loving another (consenting, of course, for any of you who are tempted to bring up child predators as an argument) is nothing but beautiful, and who am I to dictate to another human being what is right for them?
I want to touch briefly on the child predator thing because this is an "argument" that has been presented either to me or in front of me by many Christians and others who are resistant to the evolution of the species and our definition of love. Sexual predators—whether they are attacking children or adults, men or women—are not in it for love. They are using a distortion of love to justify their abusive behavior, just like any other abuser does. A rapist doesn't rape a woman because she's dressed provocatively. Rape, as with any and all sexual assault or abuse of any kind, is a method for gaining control and feeling powerful because they know deep down that they are weak. Fear-based intimidation, threats, coercion, and force are not signs of strength, but of cowardice, and none of this is based in love.
Unfortunately, even in today's society, and in courtrooms, no less, people are continuously and consistently blaming and shaming victims rather than punishing perpetrators. Rather than telling women that their rape was brought on by the way they dressed (aka victim blaming), if these people who are essentially responsible for justice had even the slightest training or knowledge about psychology and how abuse and aggression actually work, I don't believe they would be nearly as quick to blame the victim for her clothing choices, or alcohol choices for that matter. I have said before and will say again that I think psychology should be a requirement for those in positions of power who will be making decisions about someone else's life based on individual information where facts are sometimes hard to come by and the gray areas are all that are left; this is the playground of the abuser, because they know they can get away with their shit because of this vehement lack of education on the part of commissioners and judges. In my experience, especially with abuse that isn’t physical, they have the easy out of saying, "I can't speak to that because I'm not a psychologist." Meanwhile, the victim then has to continue living in a daily nightmare, fearing for their lives, because someone with the appropriate power didn't want to get their hands "dirty" and do the right thing. This has happened to me on multiple occasions with multiple cases, either my own or someone else's who I was there to morally support. No matter what the case might be, it is very obvious that these judges and commissioners not only don't have experience with abuse themselves, but they also don't have any of the training required to be able to make a solid judgment call on cases like this. It's another broken system.
What's worse is that rape is a "normal" and perfectly accepted occurrence in the Bible. Force, control, assault, and manipulation are very much present within the pages of the Bible, and this tells me that it does not, in fact, come from the true Source, but that its authors put their own spin on things. Of course that's just another one of my opinions, but here's an article to give you a broader perspective on this aspect of the Bible: http://theconversation.com/how-the-bible-shapes-contemporary-attitudes-to-rape-and-sexual-assault-76900.
No one else has all the information about your life but you. No one knows the things that you know in the ways that you know them, nor does anyone else express themselves the same way. We are all unique, yet connected in one energetic web. However, your level of connectedness depends on your emotional and vibrational state of being, which again brings us back to no one else knows you the way you do, no one else has the same experiences you do, and therefore no one else would make the same choices you do because they are not operating from the same perspective or angle. Again, there is nothing inherently "wrong" with any decision made from a place of unconditional self-love and building the life that is ideal for you (according to you, not those outside of you who want to make your choices for you based on their limited outside perspective of your life). This includes sexual orientation and your decisions about who you love and what type of love makes you happiest and allows you to thrive and keep growing as a human being.
From the Perspective of Eternity
First, the end does not justify the means, so don't let anyone tell you that. For those who are controlling or manipulative, living from a place of fear, it may seem acceptable to follow some crazy, fear-based idea such as locking up everyone who is of a specific religion or enslaving people based on race, or ostracizing and bullying an entire group of people because of their sexual orientation. Less extreme examples include isolating someone from life and other people under the guise of "protecting" them, denying someone information they are interested in by claiming it is "evil," and so on. This is quite obviously a very fearful and cowardly tactic to use, despite surface appearances typically seeming otherwise.
Creating fear within the people you are trying to lead does not bode well long-term and is not sustainable. Even if these methods wound up creating a "better" environment temporarily, it is not our job as human beings to dictate to or control other human beings; it is our job as human beings to make sure we each are the best version of ourselves that we can be, and allow others to do the same without judging their choices about how they wish to live their lives, as long as they are not harming others.
By the way, it is so much easier to go within and focus on bettering only yourself than it is to try to wrangle everyone around you into your ideal via force and control. Not only do you have just one person to worry about at that point, but you become much more open and accepting of others' choices for their lives simply because you realize and understand that they are the only people with all of the information that will apply to their situation, intuition and emotional input included. Vice versa is also true, and realizing this may initially cause some anger and rebellious feelings toward anyone who may have controlled you in the past. That's okay; don't act on anything, but allow yourself to feel those feelings and understand that you have been traumatized and betrayed, and recognize that any time new information like this comes to you and it rattles your sense of reality, you will need to make your way through the stages of grief, also referred to as the stages of acceptance.
For people who are still trying to control you, allowing you to be yourself and accepting you as such will seem like the end of the world to them because you might "ruin" their reputation by being something other than their ideal version of you, which serves as an extension of them and has the ability to enhance their reputation. For someone who is a reputable member of a Christian church, for example, finding out that their teen may be questioning their sexuality will immediately result in criticism of the teen, speculation about mental illness, and essentially giving the teen the impression that they are unlovable, unacceptable as their true selves, evil, and going to hell if they pursue a lifestyle that may actually make them happy and allow them to experience the type of love that they desire in their heart of hearts. Depending on the individual circumstance, they may not have received the unconditional love they desire during their lives, otherwise they wouldn't be looking for love in all the "wrong" places as defined by those who are well-meaningly dictating their decisions to them. What’s worse is that, all too often, when someone comes out to their parents, the parents do not accept them for who they are and may even abandon them. While I don’t know what it’s like to come out to my parents, I do know what it’s like to have them ostracize and abandon me for “changing too much,” so I can definitely say that it fucking hurts.
I know a little bit about how people who don’t understand the LGBTQ movement think because I used to think the same way. However, from a higher consciousness perspective, it's obvious to me now that the purpose for these expansions in self-expression and expressions of love is to help the collective—the entirety of the human species—to expand our way of thinking and open our hearts to the possibility that the way we've been doing things all along isn't working or sustainable, including love and relationships. The way we've been defining love for ourselves isn't actually love; but all we knew was codependency and manipulation, so waking up was painful. The way we've essentially tried to put everyone into a box that's either black or white, without allowing any leeway for exploration and growth as individuals or as a species; rather than cultivating understanding and compassion, we have been cultivating labeling and shaming others as if that's normal and acceptable. You can't "prove" your own morality by treating your fellow humans as if they are below you in any way, shape, or form. Period.
This also begs the question: do you think that Source makes mistakes? I certainly don't. Just because we lack the imagination to foresee the potential purpose for individuals feeling like they have been placed into the "wrong" body or gender doesn't mean that there isn't a divine purpose for everything we are experiencing, this questioning of gender and sexuality included. Do I claim to know what it feels like to not "belong" in my body? Kind of, but not in that way, so I can't judge that because I haven't had the experience aside from feeling like I'm a stranger on the planet itself, a misfit everywhere I went. I don't feel like I should have been a man rather than a woman, but I certainly think that others do feel that way and who am I to judge that, condemn it, or be nasty to the people who feel that way? It simply is not my place to condemn someone for a choice they make, even if it is a different choice than what I would make. Like I said before, I don't have all of the information that they have, and emotions are important, so if someone feels that they aren't the right gender for years on end, I trust that they know their own emotions better than I ever could because I'm not them.
“You don’t decide that you’re trans. You discover that you’re trans.”
Now, the next thing I would like you to think about for a moment is the big picture again. Think in terms of generations, lifetimes, or thousands of years. Now, you are a soul and you have a body, so don't think from your human mind or ego perspective; feel this idea with your heart as well. It isn't so much "comprehension" as it is coming to a deeper level of understanding and acceptance through imagining eternity. It is always, stretching on forever and ever, but it is also NOW. This is where it can get a little weird to wrap your brain around.
Now and eternity all exist simultaneously, each and every moment. The only reason we experience time in a linear fashion here on earth is because of the sheer density of the physical realm. We are physical beings, but our souls are love and light energy, so we have an etheric body that also exists simultaneously along with our physical body, and our souls are actually way too powerful for a whole one to "fit" into one single human body. The best description of this that I've come across is from Dolores Cannon and says that our souls are multifaceted, so we may exist in several different timelines and dimensions at once from our soul's perspective, living as other human beings, other genders, animals, extraterrestrial or interdimensional beings, or plants. Some souls go on to become planets and stars, so really, the connections become obvious and eternity makes more sense from this bigger view, and this physical existence also makes more sense because we suddenly have a mission: to go forth and experience everything we would like to experience in this lifetime and bring that knowledge and information back to Source, to the collective, so that we can all tap into it when we want to. Along the way, we are presented with challenges to overcome and hardships to learn from, and the better we become at allowing life to teach us in its amazing and incredible ways, the better we become at embodying the light and love that we are at the core of our being.
The only reason we are so tied and attached to our physical human rules and systems is because nobody has been taught to tap into their own personal power and responsibility since masculine energy took over thousands of years ago. When you do tap into your own soul energy, suddenly the choices of other people become just that... the choices of other people. Not your business. Live and let live. If you don't want to do the thing you're so against, then don't. But don't deny others a chance at happiness, love, and freedom because you don't understand where they're coming from and never will in this physical reality. You may understand after crossing over or dying, but our memories are suppressed when we enter this physical realm, and this is, from my understanding, the only planet where this "forgetting" happens to us. And it is because our human minds would not be able to comprehend everything at once the way our etheric energy or light bodies can.
Imagine for a moment that you don't have a physical body. You are your original self, your eternal soul, energetically connected and intermingling with all of the other energies in the universe, and choosing and planning which life to incarnate into next. As an eternal being, you're not limited in your perception because you literally are connected to everything in existence ever and you are aware of it. You also have memory of every experience you've ever had or ever will have because time isn't linear in the rest of existence like it is here on earth. Earth, from what I can gather based on the information I've consumed, is the most challenging place to live because it's like a school (Dolores Cannon). Imagine each lifetime is like a grade level, but because we're eternal beings, we have all the time "in the world," so if we fail to learn an important karmic lesson within one physical lifetime, our souls will return to try again. Obviously this can happen for thousands of years, as our souls are eternal, and we don't always come back as the same being. Some people have recalled past lives as flowers and trees, and even as part of the atmosphere itself, and that's just here on this planet.
Now, why does this make more sense than living one single physical lifetime on this earth and then dying and living out eternity in either "heaven" or "hell?"
Eternity is a long time. To scale this concept down a little bit, imagine that you're only allowed to ever purchase one vehicle during your physical lifetime, which is typically about 70-80 years. Our bodies are like vehicles for our eternal souls, so consider this an "as above so below" metaphor. Whether this vehicle lasts 50 years or 5 days, it's the only one you get, and when it's gone or broken, you're not allowed to get another one. This would be an asinine regulation to impose on people, so why would you impose that same regulation in the bigger picture on your eternal soul? Multiple lifetimes make more sense to me simply because without change and growth and evolution, eternal life would stagnate and die. We would literally cease to exist if we stop moving, growing, changing, evolving. Even the earth is speeding along at a cool 36,000 miles per hour, so not only do we live with the clever collectively-created illusion of separateness, we also live within an illusion of stillness when really things are constantly moving and changing.
Each of our souls has both masculine and feminine energies, although one tends to be the dominant one. Please note that these energies have very little—if anything—to do with our physical body's gender (although I suspect that the majority of the souls incarnating here have traditionally chosen the gender they are most comfortable with because the collective human species hasn't been ready to open up their consciousness to this particular experience until now). This is the whole reason why the LGBTQ movement and community are even in existence: eternal souls piloting physical vessels that don't fully align with how they feel within, their dominant energy, in order to rise up as they step into their own power to show the rest of us a better way to love and be loved by disregarding old rules that not everyone agreed to in the first place. We're living, at times, based on ancient rules and systems that were created to help an infant species understand something way beyond their comprehension. Well, I hate to break it to you, but we're growing and evolving extremely fast these days because information is readily available and instantly accessible, meaning that those of us who choose to can learn for our entire lives and continuously grow and expand and evolve as souls and as human beings.
This "big picture perspective" is why nonjudgment in each moment is so important, not only when it originates from you but also when you experience it originating from someone else. You can probably feel it if someone is open-minded and open-hearted, and typically you can also pick up on the vibes if someone is harshly judging you or looking at you in a condescending, "I'm-better-than-you," sort of way. And it hurts! It hurts to feel judgment radiating from someone outside of yourself, especially if that someone is a person who has claimed to "love" you (meaning "you" for everything you are, not just the parts that they like or agree with) and then performed actions that illustrated the opposite.
This is a deep, emotional and soul level of broken trust that can take a lifetime to heal, and even if it is healed in general, it may not be rebuilt or healed with that particular person, depending on the circumstances. When you choose to truly be yourself 100%, love yourself on every level unconditionally, then this type of treatment of you and behavior toward you from people who throw the L-bomb around without fully understanding its meaning can be crazy-making... frustrating... infuriating at times... heartbreaking... and finally, empowering, because one human emotional system can only take so much suffering before it rebels against its pilot and refuses to function properly in this toxicity. Sometimes this takes three years, sometimes thirty. It truly depends on the individual being treated this way and how committed they are to working toward personal growth, freedom, and peace within themselves and their lives.
Let's get something straight and completely clear right now: nobody is better than anybody else. Different, sure; clashing too much to associate with each other in this current timespace reality, also sure. Or if someone has done something heinous or horrible to another human being or living thing on purpose, I could see how we would assume we're "better" than they are. However, remember: even the things that we perceive as "bad" serve a divine purpose and are divinely timed to help us as a collective species in our growth and evolution on a spiritual, soul level. The lessons the earth and this physical reality have to teach us only seem harsh when we don't understand the bigger picture, so cultivating a growing and expanding perspective can be very beneficial as you walk your own unique path.
This judgment of others and meddling in other people's lives, trying to tell them that their decisions—which they feel and know on levels an outsider may never fully understand—are somehow bad, evil, immoral, wrong, lesser-than, or not human, is extremely damaging no matter who you are. Dehumanizing people happens on a very regular basis even now, whether we catch onto it or not; think of all the times the media has led us to believe that a certain group of people is somehow dangerous, such as Middle-Easterners all being lumped into the category of "terrorists." This—at least in my experience—has been used as a manipulation tactic (because who wouldn't be all for bombing a country full of terrorists? If we found out they're just like us, there would be resistance to these forms of force, control, and dictatorial behavior) and is a great example of fear-mongering in my book. This is very similar to Nazi Germany dehumanizing the Jews in order to turn the rest of the people against one single group: the scapegoat group, which can also be seen on an individual basis if a group targets a specific person to bully or harass, which happens quite often in school scenarios with exclusionary cliques and massive pressure to fit in rather than be accepted.
The need for a scapegoat is an aspect of being disordered or psychologically ill, potentially on the NPD spectrum, and this type of disorder is in the same category (the Dark Triad) as Psychopathy and Sociopathy, making it one of the most dangerous and undetectable forms of dark energy in the world. When someone labels someone else something dehumanizing—think feminazis, trumpanzees, etc.—this is a method for manipulating others into believing that these particular people are somehow below the rest of humanity. I am guilty of using some of these terms myself in the past, so don’t think that if you have done this that you’re “doomed” or anything like that. We can all grow and evolve and change our perspectives when we learn new information or have new experiences to incorporate into our point of view.
This leads me to the next topic of discussion for this admittedly long piece. It’s like I couldn’t stop myself, though, so I really feel like I must share all of this with you. The next section will cover the topic of dehumanization in more depth to offer a deeper understanding of this idea and why it is so harmful to people who are subjected to this type of treatment. Again, if you feel at all overwhelmed or need a break, please take one; I am posting these sections back to back for your convenience so that you can read them at your convenience. The final section is also pretty intense, so I encourage you to relax and have some tea or go for a walk or something to allow the previous information to settle in and release any triggered emotional energy that may have come up for you.
Love & Light to you, my friends, especially through the tough topics <3.
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